I hope your day is going well!
Today I am going to talk about opportunities.
I had an awesome opportunity this week to meet with local individuals to learn about social media and "fly" in a C-130 flight simulator.
We talk about opportunities passing us by, taking an opportunity, seeking opportunity, and so on.
But really what is an opportunity?
According to www.dictionary.com, an opportunity is:
noun, plural op·por·tu·ni·ties.
So, how do we know if something is an opportunity?
We check it against our goals.
If a situation arises and it is something that will help us get closer to our goals, that is an opportunity. If it does not, then it is not.
What if it is just the chance to do something fun?
Well, isn’t living a full life and having fun goals in our lives? Even if they are not written out goals, we all seek happiness and pleasure.
Flying in a simulator is not directly related to any written goal. However, it was a lot of fun and not something I get to do everyday. It brought pleasure to my day.
Opportunities come for each of us at different times in our paths. When we see what we want, even if what we want is simply a chance to explore something new, the right set of circumstances is our opportunity to drive ourselves forward.
For me, dancing was an exploratory opportunity that came at just the right time and place in my life. Taking that opportunity was the best decision for me.
Don’t regret “missed opportunities;” if it did not push you forward or other circumstances prevented it, then it was never an opportunity for you to begin with.
I hope that you look for opportunity daily in your life. Sometimes they are small, sometimes they are large. There are always opportunities to improve yourself and get you closer to who you want to be.
Have a great week!
Keep dancing forward!
One day last week, we were having lunch at Burger King.
A lady and a young boy (son or grandson, I assume) come in the restaurant and are carrying a box.
I see the lady say something to three of the workers who have gathered at the counter after she placed an order.
She says something to them and then opens the box. For a moment, they look at her questioningly, but then smile as they reach in the box and take something out.
The lady then stops at the soda machine and fills her and the boy’s cup.
They approach two patrons at a table and I observe a similar question and look, followed by a smile and taking something from this box.
She approached our table and I finally learn what she is doing.
“Would you like some words of encouragement?” she asks us as she opens the box.
“I’m sorry, what was that?” I say.
She repeats her question and I see the box is filled with tiny folded papers and those rubber band bracelets with words on them. She tells me to take whatever I want.
I take a paper, say thank you and she and the boy move on.
Unfolding the paper, it reads, “YOU ARE SPECIAL! Believe it!”
It was such a nice thing to do for complete strangers. What a simple and quiet way to show compassion to others!
I am very impressed with the way she is teaching the child how to be good and kind to others and expect nothing in return. He has been a quiet part of this with her, observing her unconditional love for her fellow human beings. How will this affect him as he grows up?
It was a very nice experience and one I think we can learn from. You never know what another is struggling with in their mind, heart, or soul. You can always just be kind. You do not have to do an overt act like this lady did (but you can!), but you can just be nice and smile at others. The cashiers, the grocery baggers, the mail/package deliverers, the person staring at you from the other car….just everyone.
Why? Because you are special. You are capable of kindness. You know how good it feels to receive encouragement. It feels good to give encouragement, too. Life is better when lived through love, not grievances and hatred. The world is not against you. Do not be against the world .
Have a great week!
Keep dancing forward!
Happy Sunday once again!
Let me start today by saying that it is hard to come up with something to talk about each week. If you have something you would like me to write about, please let me know!
Moving on to today’s topic…
Some weeks are just filled with not-so-great food choices. This was one of those weeks. (see photo above)
I had a lot of fried food, a lot of snacking food, and a lot of excess sugary foods.
But you know what?
It is still ok.
I don’t find that I failed. I acknowledge that I could have made better choices. I know that my body did not like some of the choices because of how it reacted (but it was still worth it! LOL).
I think about a t-shirt I have from #loseitapp that says “Diet food" and has a picture of pizza. That is a reminder that all foods can have a place in a balanced lifestyle.
Do not view foods as "good" versus “bad.” This can create negative attitudes regarding food and nutrition.
I am not saying that all foods are an excellent nutritional choice for a healthy lifestyle all the time.
I am saying that in a healthy lifestyle there is room for all types of foods of varying nutritional values.
A well-balanced lifestyle can allow you to enjoy the foods that you love within reasonable quantities (exceptions to this include allergies, diseases, etc. that do require certain foods to be avoided at all cost).
How do you create a well-balanced lifestyle?
By all of the choices you make in your everyday life.
Lifestyle choices include exercise (type of exercise as well as amount of time), stress management, enjoyable activities, security in basic needs, as well as nutrition decisions.
How often do our stress levels determine what, how much, and why we eat? How often do we see exercise as a punishment for what we ate rather than the celebration of what we area able to do?
You don’t have to be a gym rat, or run marathons, or be an Olympic athlete. You don’t have to be on the latest diet fad or a particular number on the scale.
You just have to learn your own body. Understand your body’s unique needs and abilities. Define ways you would like to improve conditions.
I know it sounds like it should be easy.
It is not.
You will have many setbacks.
You will look at others and be jealous of how “easy" it is for them.
My advice: Do not compare your journey to anyone’s.
Your journey is unique to you.
You can get to where you want to be, and it will be on the timetable that is right for you.
The only way to fail is to quit.
And as hard as it can be, please do not give up!
Find a cheerleader, someone to walk the journey with you.
If you don’t know who can be a good cheerleader for you, you can count on me! Just message me. We don’t have to know each other in person. I want you to succeed and celebrate your successes!!!
And please cheer on others who share their accomplishments with you.
We can support each other and lose nothing of ourselves.
I hope you take this next week and evaluate the goals you set at the start of the new year. Look at them objectively and see if they are reasonable, attainable, and is your plan to reach them effective and appropriate? It is never too late to adjust or even start over. You just keep moving forward!
Have a great week and keep DANCING FORWARD!
Yesterday, I competed in my first ballroom competition of 2020 (my second competition ever).
It was fun. I placed first in my division for smooth multi-dance challenge (Waltz/Tango/Foxtrot) and second for rhythm (Cha Cha/Rumba/Swing).
Yet, that is not the most important part to me (though I am proud to bring those medals home for my studio – Salón de Baile!).
***I am going to take a sidestep here and say overall my proudest moment is of our Teen and Kid competition teams placing first, second and third in so many dances! I am honored to be a mentor to our teen girls and help them develop life skills in our studio programs that will help them in all aspects of their lives one day.***
The best personal part in this competition is how much fun it was.
I felt that my partner and I had a great connection, I performed well, and there was no pressure on me.
Performance-wise, it was probably my “happiest-looking” public performance yet (one knows these things when the compliment is “good job smiling!” when you walk off the floor. LOL.)
How did this happen?
I worked hard to get to this point; it doesn’t just happen. Hours of lessons and coaching, hours of practice in the studio, hours of studying patterns, technique, and history, hours of practice at home (and maybe down aisles at the grocery store)….and then working with my pro partner to put all these things together.
And here I am today looking forward to Monday when my partner and I are going to start reworking our 2020 goals and start working toward more progress and improvement.
I am not in competition with anyone other than myself. My only consistent goal is to be better than I was before. I am willing to work to get there.
I see what I have done in a year, even in six months, and say “Let’s see how far I can really go.”
I keep going forward. There is no age limit to your abilities.
The only limits are what you tell yourself you can’t do.
And if someone else tells you that you cannot do something, I hope you tell yourself what I tell myself, “Just wait…I will show you.” And then just work to do it.
You should be proud of what you accomplish. You work hard to be you. And if it is a bad day in there, it’s ok. Tomorrow can be excellent.
Have a great week and Keep Dancing Forward!